Are you dieting without realising?
We all know that diets don't work when 96% of diets fail in the long term. So why are more people on a diet than ever?
Nowadays, diets are often disguised as a 'healthy lifestyle choice' or 'a way of eating'. This sly rebrand tricks you into thinking you're doing the "right thing". But a wolf in sheep's clothing can't be trusted...
Telltale signs you're on a diet
You're following a meal plan
Even if it’s been sold to you as a ‘lifestyle plan’, any thing that tells you what to eat for breakfast, lunch and dinner is a diet. It's ok to get broad meal and snack recommendations, but when deviating from the plan makes you feel like you 'fell off the bandwagon', you're on a diet.
You've quit sugar
Avoiding or limiting fruit, cutting out whole grains or banning yourself from enjoying a treat is a diet. Eating less sugar and cooking more is great but cutting out whole food group is not.
You're eating clean
Clean eating can very quickly turn dirty when you feel anxious to make plans because you're not sure what you'll be able to eat. If you feel dirty for eating the wrong foods, your 'clean eating' diet has become unhealthy.
Tracking your intake
If you're recording every calorie and movement in an app - you're on a diet. It's great to be mindful and aware of what you eat, but feeling out of control when you don't track can be dangerous.
Cutting out whole food groups
Restricting whole food groups like grains, meat, dairy, legumes, fruit or fats is just another form of diet. If you can't live like that for the rest of your life, it probably won't be sustainable beyond the 12-week fitness challenge.
All diets, regardless of their name, are unhealthy and lead to weight gain.
Diets slow your metabolism, make you crave 'banned' foods, lead to longer term weight gain and complicate your relationship with food.
You don't have to diet for feel good, energised and comfortable in your body.
Here is what to do instead of dieting:
1. Use 'crowding'
Crowding is really effective and really simple: Focus on what you can eat, not what you’re not allowed to eat. For example: Instead of aiming to 'eat less takeaway', try to 'cook more at home'. You'll achieve the same thing but it'll be a much easier and happier process.
Instead of saying 'I won't snack on lollies anymore' try 'I will snack on fruit'.
Add more healthy foods into your diet like plenty of vegetables and fruit and naturally and you'll crowd out the less healthy choices. This is a much more positive approach.
2. Don't put a label on it.
Don't define your diet by the things you don't eat.
In fact, do not label your diet at all!
If you are inspired by paleo principles, that's great. If you want to eat more plant-based, go for it. But don't put rules around it.
My diet is always changing to best suit my changing needs so why put rules around it?
Sometimes I eat more plant-based options. Other weeks I crave more fats or meat. I probably eat a low refined sugar diet and barely think about it. It's the Lyndi diet and it doesn't bind, control or restrict me.
3. Eat food that makes you feel good
If you asked, your body would tell you it feels good when you eat healthier food.
If you asked, your body would tell you doesn't feel good when you over eat or eat too much 'sometimes' food.
Instead of trying to control your eating, eat food that makes you feel good.
I believe there is a natural flow in eating. Sometimes you'll feel like more substantial choices, other times, you're going to crave lighter choices. When you aren't able to flow and eat the choices you really crave, that leads to emotional and out of control eating.
4. Notice when you're accidentally dieting
Start to notice when you start to ask yourself: "Am I allowed to eat that"?
As soon as you ask that question, note that you're probably on a diet. You need to give yourself permission to eat everything. Very soon it'll change to "I am allowed to eat that. But do I really want to"? It sounds subtle, but it makes all the difference.
5. Learn how to become an intuitive eater
Intuitive eating is the opposite of dieting.
It means listening to your body instead of your brain. It involves asking your body when to eat, how much to eat and what it really feels like. It's actually the best way to be healthy in the long term.
If you want to become a more intuitive eater and stop binge eating, check out my 10-week online program called Keep It Real. It's already helped hundreds of people create a healthier, more balanced and intuitive relationship with food.